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Supremely Confused about Marriage Equality

Expanding the franchise would make the institution stronger, not weaker.

Donald Kaul

Confusion reigned supreme in the nation’s highest court last month as it heard arguments on two same-sex marriage cases. Confronted with the possibility of endorsing the right of men to marry men and women, women, the Justices resembled nothing so much as a group of kittens playing with a ball of barbed wire.

They poked at the cases and retreated from them. Then they circled around and poked again, never quite daring to confront the issue directly.

Admittedly they’re strange cases. In one, the Supreme Court was asked to overrule a lower court’s decision that had found unconstitutional California’s Proposition 8 — a ban on marriage equality that the state itself wasn’t willing to defend.

Instead, a group of private citizens with no real standing in the case brought the appeal.

“I just wonder if the case was properly granted,” said Justice Anthony Kennedy, seemingly speaking for a majority of the Court.



So why did the Court agree to hear the case in the first place? Two words: Antonin Scalia. You can always count on him to be on the wrong side of an issue.

Court observers say that he, above all the other Justices, despises the growing trend toward same-sex marriage rights. Thinking that this would be the Court’s best shot to knock it down before it gains even more acceptance, he reportedly talked three fellow conservatives into taking up the case.

The Court spent half the day arguing about whether they should be considering the case in the first place, rather than struggling with its central question: Do gay people have a right to lawful wedded bliss like everyone else?

Not that the rest of the debate was marked by much more clarity.

At one point, Justice Elena Kagan asked how marriage equality would damage traditional marriage. The lawyer for those supporting Proposition 8 responded that the key to marriage is procreation.

That’s news to many heterosexual couples that have no intention of having children. Hasn’t he heard of birth control — you know, condoms, diaphragms, the pill, things like that?

The questioning then veered off into an unproductive discussion of infertile couples, elderly couples, Strom Thurmond, and other matters that had nothing to do with anything.

The bottom line is this: The opponents of marriage equality have yet to explain satisfactorily how allowing gay people to marry would harm “the sanctity of marriage.” I think that expanding the franchise would make the institution stronger, not weaker.

LGBT people aren’t attacking marriage, they’re improving it. More power to them.

Supreme Court watchers, by the way, expect the justices to duck the issue and send it back to the state. That would be too bad. Rights shouldn’t be left to individual states to grant or not. We have constitutions to protect minorities from majorities, not to let them be oppressed by them.

The second case involved the so-called “Defense of Marriage Act,” in which Congress defined marriage as the union of one man and one woman. It was signed into law by President Bill Clinton, who now says he regrets doing so.

The law was challenged by an 83-year-old woman who was forced to pay much higher inheritance taxes when her wife died than she would have had the federal government recognized their marriage.

Once again, the government had second thoughts and decided not to defend its own law in court. The Republican anti-gay wing of the House took on that task. The Court’s discussion of the case was just as confused as that of the California case.

Bringing clarity to the matter was the woman who brought the claim, Edith Windsor. She and her partner had been together 40 years but only married the last two. And she said it was the best two.

“For anybody who doesn’t understand why we want it and why we need it,” Windsor said, “it is magic.”

You’d think that true defenders of marriage would embrace that sentiment, not oppose it.

OtherWords columnist Donald Kaul lives in Ann Arbor, Michigan.

  • Tom Sacco

    Half of all marriages end in divorce.
    The other half, I guess, end in death.
    NEITHER option appeals to me.

  • Ray M

    Donald, as usual, you miss the big point. Gays are trying to gain acceptability by
    claiming marriage is a civil right that they are now denied.

    It is not a civil right meaning open to all, previously denied due to race, sex, creed, etc. Marriage is reserved, and has been for centuries to a man & a woman with the potential to procreate.

    No other “arrangement” has that potential and if same sex persons think it is a “right” denied them they are distinctly wrong. The “right” they seek is denied them by their preferences, which they are responsible for. Since they may not be able to control their preferences does not extend to them the privilege to take on the same mantel in society.

    This is no different than denying a blind person a license to drive because it is a privilege reserved for those capable of carrying out the intent of that license.

    • JaylahP

      Bigotry is bigotry, whether based on age, gender, race, ethnic origin, or whatever.

      And in ALL cases regarding same-sex marriage, courts have always made it a point to specify that there is a difference between religious marriage and civil marriage. A “church” retains the right not to marry same-sex couples if they don’t want to.

      But our *government* (federal, state or local) does not have the right to deny a license based on flat-out bigotry.

      Good try with the idea of driver’s licenses to blind people. But a blind person would be a danger to themselves and others behind the wheel of a car. Please explain how two men (or two women) married to each other would have even the slightest effect on your life.

      I’m always amused at how far bigots will reach to try to defend their bigotry.

  • Thomas Ryan

    I’d get government out of the marriage business completely.

    There are reasons for government to recognize a union between people for the purpose of taxation, inheritance, child custody, medical decision making and the like. Government should recognize that union – between opposite or same sex couples – with a civil contract.
    Leave “Holy Matrimony” to religion. If Catholics don’t want to marry gay folks, nobody should make them. If Unitarians do want to marry gay folks, nobody should stop them.

    But as long as marriage remains a legal status with legal benefits and responsibilities, to deny it to any group of people is simply a denial of equal protection of the law.